How to Personalize the Definition of Success

Comparison. We’ve all heard this word and we’re familiar with how it can invade every area of life if you allow it to. While our personal lives are often affected most noticeably, in our fast-paced, social media-driven society, our businesses can be affected as well. Comparison to someone else’s journey can lead to feelings of frustration, disappointment, and defeat, but it doesn’t have to be that way!

In episode 571 of The Bokeh Podcast, we are joined by Sarah Larae, as she opens up and discusses what her journey has looked like and how she has overcome limiting beliefs! After walking through struggles in her personal life and falling victim to self-deprecation and feelings of insecurity, Sarah discovered that true success comes from being true to yourself. Tune in as we discuss four practical steps that you can take to begin defining success for yourself, too!

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Show Notes

Sarah’s thoughts on the importance of in-person community (3:08)

Brand position (7:10)

How does Sarah differentiate “joyful” in her brand? (8:46)

How does Sarah encourage “slow to warm” clients to embrace a joyful attitude? (10:39)

Sarah, on being comfortable with herself (13:39)

How was Sarah able to overcome being insecure? (16:38)

Creating a great client experience (19:15)

How has Sarah learned to ask the right questions? (21:24)

Technique for time management (25:08)

Outsourcing/Delegation (26:58)

Book recommendation (29:34)
The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown
Atlas of the Heart by Brene Brown
Atomic Habits by James Clear
https://bokehbookshelf.com

What has driven the tendency in our culture to compare ourselves to another person? (31:47)

Where did Sarah’s perspective come from? (34:12)

Sarah’s perspective on “bravery” (37:22)

Sarah’s transition, moving out of comparison (47:42)

Sarah’s definition of “success” in the past (49:32)

Sarah’s definition of “success” now (52:00)

4 Steps Toward Making a Shift to Defining Success for Yourself (57:15)
1. Start with self-reflection
2. Ask “what do I want?”
3. Block out the noise
4. Don’t give significance to insignificant people

Links:
Charity Water
Sarah Larae Photography – Website
Sarah Larae – Instagram
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life